Stella
Damasus has been on the entertainment watch news lately, with different
reports and rumor surrounding her friendship/relationship with another
man, years after the demise of her Husband. She took to her
blog and bore her mind on several issues.
The Title is REDIRECT, Its a very long piece though:
A
young girl from my women and young girls mentoring club (Adiva) , sent
me a long email lamenting and venting about people around her community
and some of her friends. She did not understand why no one ever noticed
or talked about her when she did something good for others or to others
but whenever there was gossip and it concerned her the whole school
turned upside down. She hates the fact that she is always in the school
gossip magazine for all the unthinkable things but when her grades come
out tops she is never mentioned. In the mail she was angry that her
friends who had known her for ages never stood by her nor defended her
whenever she had issues. She went on and on and at first I laughed when I
finished the extremely long mail. So in my response I said ” my dear
with everything you must have read and heard about me, I am still
wondering why you believe I can help you when I go through practically
the same thing almost everyday”. She responded and said she was one of
those who would actually read and hear these things and believe them.
She also apologized because she said it was very easy for her to
contribute to the gist about me even though she did not know me
personally and had never met me before. I asked her why she changed her
mind about me and why she wants me to talk to her about it. She then
gave the most interesting but very funny response. She said “well I
kinda figured that if all these things they said about me were lies and
people believed it and my friends did nothing to help the situation then
it is possible that the same things could be happening to you”. So I
said “are you saying that if it had not happened to you then you will
continue to judge and condemn me without knowing the truth thereby
taking God’s job of judging from him?
After we had cleared all
that I could not help it, I had to tell her that I was glad it happened
to her too but if I have gone through it and I’m still going through but
I’m still standing then she can overcome it too no matter how bad. I
encouraged her and reminded her about an article I wrote earlier (type
A). The truth is, good news and positive things are not sweet enough for
the average mind. People who have positive lives or happy lives will
not have the time to sit and enjoy another’s downfall. Busy and
successful people do not have the time or energy for nonsense and idle
talk. They spend their time and energy in looking for ways, techniques,
methods, and more skills to improve their lives, businesses, education,
children and even communities.
Isn’t it funny how we always sit
and wonder how things were created? In ibo we say “Ndi Ocha bu agbara”.
It’s like saying the white man is a wizard or supernatural. We all know
they are human beings like us or at least we claim to know. We also
claim we are the same in the eyes of God, we have brains just like they
do and the only difference is the color of their skin. How come they are
able to produce and manufacture things that can make me talk to someone
who is millions of miles away?
How can I fly to another country
when I don’t have wings? How am I able to look for the meaning of
anything and look from where I am through a device and someone in Tibet
can see the same thing at the same time? How am I able to have a
conversation with ten people scattered all over the world at the same
time? How am I able to put a pill in my mouth to heal a boil? How am I
able to monitor what is happening in front of my house while I am at
work? How am I able to know when a baby is crying in the crib even when
in the kitchen?
Let us stop and ask ourselves these questions from time to time?
If
we, especially the Nigerians who would rather sit in front of a
computer to talk crap or the one who would spend their money just to buy
and read something that condemns others can stop for a second and spend
that precious time and money on something that will improve their
lives, then the country will surely be a better place.
We spend so
much on importation because we are not producing the quality of
products we desire. We spend so much on vacations outside the country
because we cannot maintain the beautiful place devoid of massive natural
disasters that God has given us. We spend so much on medical care
outside the country (for those who can afford it) because the hospitals
are not equipped.
When we think about all this the first thing we
want to do is blame it all on government. Well news flash! No matter how
many rallies, associations, intelligence groups are formed; all you
will get is the same thing we have experienced for far too long “talk
talk and more talk”. There are millions of people in Nigeria and even
more than the national census can account for, and I believe that
Nigerians are extremely intelligent, productive and creative. If we have
more people looking for ways to make things better, to educate
themselves more with things they are interested in and provide lasting
solutions to their communities, I know that things will improve. The
best heart surgeon in America today is a Nigerian, some of the best
actors in Hollywood are Africans, the best footballers in the world are
Nigerians, the list is endless so there is no doubt in my mind that if
we set out to stand out and succeed there is no stopping us.
Look
at the likes of Tuface, MI, ASA,BEZ, DBANJ,PSQUARE and the other amazing
artists touring the world and acquiring more fans all over plus making
more money weekly than even Bank MD’s. Sometimes don’t you wonder what
they spend their time doing? I am sure if you see PSQUARE rehearsing,
training, recording, touring, going for meetings, working on costumes,
and writing songs you will probably pass out. Now please tell me if
these people will have the time to sit and start judging or condemning
others. They are talked about by other people but these same people see
them and want to take pictures or get autographs. These same people want
to shake their hands and buy their albums. These same people make them
richer everyday. So who is the foolish one? The one who is talking and
enriching others or the one who is being talked about and making money.
The most successful people in the world today were once considered
radicals, prodigals, crazy, selfish, different, non conformists,
controversial.
I read a lot about successful people because I
want to be successful too (God willing) and it occurred to me that if
these people had not stepped out of the box the society wanted them to
be they will not be where they are today. With everything the world said
about Tuface and all the drama, he is still one of the greatest artists
from Africa in this generation. People still did all they could to
support him during his wedding. Some of the same people on the Internet
who said all sorts were the ones who started praying for him and his
family. Isn’t that amazing? One minute someone is the most irresponsible
the next he is the best and greatest. What about Dele Momodu who is the
most respected and most industrious publisher in Africa, he was also
talked about but did that stop the success of ovation? No way. In fact
the magazine grew and became untouchable.
I can go on and on but I
guess I am just trying to encourage people to let go of the hating,
backbiting, idle talk and evil plots. Redirect your energy to yourself
and your family or even your community. That way you will be successful
and be remembered for something positive.
One thing we should
always remember is that no matter what we say and do to others Gods plan
will come to pass. A good example is the life of Jesus Christ. I
encourage you to read from the book of Matthew again. He went through
all he did to give us hope that even when the world comes against you,
God has got you covered.
Who God has blessed no man can curse.
My inspirational song of the week is “Nobody” by MI and TUFACE
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